Be Gentle With Yourself
It’s been intense out there. There have been big losses and big wins this week, but in both cases, they have been hard fought. You’ve paid with your energy, with your fight, with your fire, with your boundaries. You’ve pushed yourself further than usual, for all the right reasons, but it still depleted you. You might be feeling a bit raw. So it’s time to be gentle with yourself as we move into the solstice this weekend. Let yourself recover a bit from all the work as you welcome the light again.
How can you be gentle with yourself?
Ask yourself “How can I feel softer? How can I make my experience of the world feel softer right now?”
Literally seek out soft things in your physical environment. Snuggles in fuzzy blankets. A warm bath. Clothes that are comfortable. Warm, soft winter foods, hot teas, and cool water.
Allow yourself to stray from your routine if your routine feels too harsh. Make those accommodations for yourself without guilt, and allow yourself to accept more help from others. Receiving is key.
Adjust your social media and entertainment intake. If all the extra information feels sharp and anxious, pull back. If you usually avoid it but it makes you feel comforted or connected, indulge more.
Give yourself more time to do nothing. “Productivity” can often be the killer of softness because productivity is the art of slicing and building with precision and intent, while rest is following rounded edges and stillness. Productivity is a triangle and rest is a circle - reflect accordingly.
Notice what level of touch your body needs to feel soft and safe. Would it feel more gentle to be untouched? To be held? Keep track of how it feels, since it can change from moment to moment.
Remind yourself that it’s okay to be whatever you are. Feel whatever you feel. Don’t try to change your thoughts or behaviors right now, just allow yourself to add softness to whatever those thoughts or behaviors are. This is the art of seeing yourself and meeting yourself where you’re at.
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Have a wonderful holiday week and if you’re still looking for a gift for you or a fellow sensitive, go pick up my book I Don’t Want To Be An Empath Anymore. :)